Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) promotes the health and well-being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through:
* Support, to cope with an adverse society
* Education, to enlighten an ill-informed public
* Advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights.
Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays provides opportunity for dialogue about sexual orientation and gender identity, and acts to create a society that is healthy and respectful of human diversity.
PFLAG York will not give up until society accepts all of its members as equals, regardless of their sexual orientation or their sexual identity.
On Finding out Your Child is Gay
1. You are not alone – the fact is one in every four families has a gay member.
2. You have a right to your feelings.
3. Remember that your child is the same person that he/she was the day before coming out.
4. Your child’s coming out is a compliment to you – he/she trusts you and loves you.
5. PFLAG York can help you by giving you a place to share your story. Other parents can lend support. We've been there and we want to help you.
6. Love your child just the way he/she is. Don’t try to change them. Don’t be part of the 26 percent who put them out on the street.
7. You did not cause this nor did your child choose his/her orientation.
8. Begin to educate yourself. PFLAG York has many good books and videos to help you. The more you learn – the better you will feel.
9. Give yourself time to heal and learn.
10. Coming out is a freeing experience for your child. He/she can have a good normal life with a loving partner.
11. Your coming out gradually can also be a freeing experience for you.
12. In time, you may even become an activist.
A Quote to Think About
"Gay children whose parents accept them unconditionally without asking them to live their lives in any way that is untrue to their orientation truly are blessed. Parents who wish to truly love their gay children will embrace them for who they are, not what they are." This quote is taken from an article written on January 14, 2005 by Rand Simmons, a state employee and member of The Olympian's Diversity Panel
Something else to think about
The more unlike ourselves we perceive others to be, the easier it is to hate them. Thus for example Nazis created the fiction that Jews were a subspecies. In this country the full humanity of Native Americans and African-Americans was denied by those who killed and enslaved them.
Ultimately the only rationale for denying full rights to any group is the underlying belief that they are not quite human or at least not equal.
The currently despised minorities, gays and transgenders, suffer a similar reaction as we ask to be included in every social construct. We seek legal security for our families, non-discriminatory employment and military service, protection from physical assault, and real equality in our houses of worship. All of these constructs are so integral to society as to be taken for granted by the majority.
But the response of too many is to frantically and even rabidly deny these rights to gays and transgenders lest the picture of the hopelessly depraved and degenerate subspecies fades. What might happen if we realized that we are all more alike than otherwise
Sadly, it needs to be said: we are as fully American as you are. And we are as fully human.
This was a letter to the editor written by Douglas Marshall-Steele
Doug is the webmaster of www.towardequality.org
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